Wow!  In just a few lines you have efficiently listed many pitfalls entrepreneurs face. The quickest way to take on your lack of focus is one that was first put forth by Ivey Lee to Andrew Carnegie: At the end of the day, take a pocket-size piece of paper and write down the three most important things you MUST do to move your business forward the next day and rank them in order of priority.

The next morning do the first thing first and do not do anything else, including e-mails, until that one is complete. Then do the next one and then the third. Repeat the process every evening and every day, and you'll be astonished at the results.

As for books to read: anything by Brian Tracy as he addresses all the concerns you mention in a clear and actionable way, or Julie Morgenstern or David Allen on organization.

Good luck--discipline does not come easily, but without it everything else is difficult.