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Can I confront an employee about interviewing for another job?

My employee interviewed for a job at another office. A friend of mine that works in that office recognized her and contacted me. Can I confront my employee or will that put my friend and her office in jeopardy?
Elinor Robin answered February 17, 2010
URL: http://www.entrepreneur.com/answer/222060
I cannot see any benefit you would derive from confronting this employee. What the employee did was not illegal or immoral. S/he is just doing what s/he believes is in his/her best interest.

What would you do if this employee admitted or denied the interview?

From my perspective, your best action is to acknowledge--to yourself--the emotional charge that this incident triggers. Do you feel betrayed? Abandoned? Dupped?

Now, put this emotion aside and focus on your next logical step. Start preparing for this employee's departure. You will get much more by staying quiet--and preparing--then you will by any confrontation.

Your employee has one foot out the door. Get ready for the move. How can you quietly get ready? Is it possible to promote cross training so that someone else knows this employee's job?

Often in life, we have much more power when we do not let someone else know what we are thinking or what we know.

Remember Don Corleone's famous line in The Godfather: "Never tell anyone outside the family what you are thinking again."
Elinor Robin, "The Relationship Mediator," has more than 18 years of experience in mediation while working within the public and private sectors.