Word Games
Don't let yourself get tangled in the other side's tricky talk.
When you negotiate a deal, you support your position in a
variety of ways, basing your arguments on fairness, recognized
authorities, precedents and industry standards—all legitimate
options. But your opponents might use "fuzzy logic" to
fly below your mental radar. Here are examples of what to watch out
for and how to deal with them: - Analogies: These may be lovely and poetic, but they
don't prove a thing. If your opponent uses an analogy,
challenge it—or counter it with one of your own.
- Unidentified sources: Ask the other side for
corroboration—you're entitled. If your opponent can't
identify the source, ignore it.
- Citing authority: Investigate the maven's
background. As ace negotiator Chester Karass says, "For every
expert, there is an equal and opposite expert."
- Overgeneralizations: Watch out for words like
"all," "every" and "never." Do they
really apply to your situation, or is your opponent using one
isolated fact to support a sweeping conclusion? Test the
statements. When has the other side made an exception, and under
what circumstances would they consider one now? Find out whether
they're willing to back up what it says in the contract.
- Undefined terms and fuzzy language: You know what words
like "material," "promptly" and
"reasonable" mean, right? True, sometimes we all prefer a
little imprecision. But other times, you'd better pin your
terms down. Otherwise, "material," "promptly"
and "reasonable" will mean whatever the other side wants
them to mean.
- Ad hominem arguments: These are personal attacks, not
solid, rational counterarguments, so don't get intimidated or
tweaked. Stay focused on the problem. After all, if the best your
opponents can do is to call you names, you know they're on
shaky ground.
- Funny money: Your opponent may say "What's the
big deal? It's only an extra 2 cents per pound!" Sure,
that may be true—but if you're dealing with 25 tons, 2
cents can make a big difference. Watch out for repetitive charges
and small increments that can multiply over the entire deal.
- Profit definitions: Avoid unpleasant surprises. If your
deal contains detailed royalty provisions or profit splits, pull
out a calculator and run a few examples yourself. The written word
can take on surprising new meanings once the real numbers are
crunched.
Diversion, repetition and evading questions are also part of the
game. So make sure you're prepared—not only to defend but
also to counter-attack. Have all the facts at your fingertips. Find
out how the other side has done it before. Research the applicable
industry's customs and practices regarding the deal at hand. Be
ready to suggest objective standards, such as market value or what
a court or expert would think is fair. The parry and thrust of a negotiation requires significant
mental stamina. You've got to keep your guard up if you
don't want to get skewered.
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A speaker and attorney in Los Angeles, Marc Diener is the
author of DealPower: 6 Foolproof Steps to Making Deals of Any
Size.
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