When No One Sees You Crying

We cannot deny the emotions that bring tears to the surface. The only thing we can change is how we cope with everything that's happening.

learn more about Ann Peck

By Ann Peck

martin-dm | Getty Images

Opinions expressed by Entrepreneur contributors are their own.

Even though no one is talking about it, I can't be the only one, can I?

I've asked myself these words more times than I can count since March, when the reality of COVID-19 hit our country. When everything was new, friends and I had numerous discussions of what was going on and how it made us feel, and they helped.

Those conversations are few and far between these days, despite what we're learning is a massively shared experience. I'm talking about the sudden outbursts of tears triggered by something as simple as riding a bike or cooking dinner.

Or getting lost in our thoughts, as I did earlier today.

Now, I'll admit, I'm the gal who cries at Hallmark commercials and movie trailers, but the cause of today's tears is something much more intense. And unsettling. It's more than the stress of what's happening in our world.

Today's tears come from deep sadness.

Working at home, being isolated from friends and family takes its toll on most of us, whether we wish to admit it or not. And with the fall and flu season upon us shortly, it all starts sinking in that life as we knew it is unlikely to return any time soon, if ever.

We're beginning to see how drastically things will change in the coming months for those of us in cold climates. Few are returning to their offices this year, and the ability to socialize, even at a distance, will be severely limited when the snow starts flying and the temperatures drop. And with that, many have adopted a new motto: It is what it is. What it is, is depressing.

Perhaps that's why we're spending less time talking about it now. We've resigned ourselves to this altered state of normal and how it makes us feel. We don't like to admit to being unhappy, and sadness, by its very definition, characterizes sorrow. But knowing the origin of something helps us understand, cope and eventually move through it.

A change of seasons often ushers in conflicting emotions, yet everything is amplified by what is happening right now. People are dying in the streets, in their homes and alone. In the United States, the pandemic and civil unrest are taking an unimaginable toll on the hearts and souls of our citizens. No wonder we're grieving.

Related: 3 Strategies to Help You Create a Meaningful Work-Life Balance in the Midst of COVID-19 Chaos

Related: Self-Compassion Is an Essential Tool for All Entrepreneurs

Related: Entrepreneurship Was Tough Before COVID-19. Now It's Testing Founders' Mental Limits.

As the death toll grows higher, the impact of the loss of human life smacks us like a gut punch in a back-alley brawl, and just as swiftly, we're drowning in sorrow when the tears begin to flow.

It's no surprise that these experiences interfere with our ability to do the things that mean the most to our family and ourselves, whether that means working, learning or spending time together. They throw us off our game and mess with our carefully planned schedule (that didn't have crying listed). What matters here is knowing we're not alone and to let others know the same.

Remember, even when no one sees you crying, you're not the only one.

We cannot deny the emotions that brought our tears to the surface and we cannot change what's happening in the world around us. The only thing we can change is how we cope with everything that's happening.

Compassion for ourselves is an invaluable first step.

Call up a friend, hop on a video chat. Talk about what you're experiencing so you can understand it better. It's the first step to getting back to doing what matters most in our lives, even if the world around us never returns to what it was before.

Ann Peck

Freelance Writer on Life, Health, Happiness & This Adoptee Voice

Ann Peck is an awarding-winning author of three books and published in over 35 publications. She writes to remind women they're not alone, they're not the only ones, and they're not crazy either. Join her and receive Love Notes + More at Ann Peck

Related Topics

Editor's Pick

Have More Responsibilities at Work, But No Pay Bump? Use This Script to Get the Raise You Deserve.
Black and Asian Founders Face Opposition at All Levels — Here's Why That Has to Change
Business News

'This Made Me Physically Recoil From My Phone': Lingerie Brand Apologizes For 'Creepy' Ad Referencing Ryan Reynolds and Bras

Online lingerie retailer Harper Wilde is under fire for a bizarre sponsored post it has since pulled from Instagram.

Thought Leaders

5 Small Daily Habits Self-Made Millionaires Use to Grow Their Wealth

We've all seen what self-made millionaires look like on TV, but it's a lot more subtle than that. Brian Tracy researched what small daily habits these successful entrepreneurs adopted on their journey from rags to riches.

Business News

Viral Sensation 'Popcorn Guy' Has Earned a Gig at the 2023 Oscars

Jason Grosboll first went viral on TikTok for his theatrical method of buttering popcorn in a Texas movie theater.

Business News

The Scam Artist Who Robbed Backstreet Boys and NSYNC Blind. 'Some of the Guys Couldn't Pay Their Car Payment.'

In the 1990s, Lou Pearlman made millions creating the Backstreet Boys and NSYNC. It was all a giant Ponzi scheme.