No one wants to be that friend who goes on and on and on about his annoying co-worker, the rain and the lousy service at the restaurant where he just ate.
Recent research cited in The Atlantic found that those who complain more mindfully -- meaning they have a specific result in mind -- are happier than those who simply vent.
If you need to complain, there's a way to express some negativity without turning off everyone around you or exacerbating the problem. According to psychologist Guy Winch, there's a "right" way to gripe.
As Business Insider's Anisa Purbasari has reported, "An effective complaint is about an issue that can be remedied and is addressed to someone who has the power to fix it."
An effective complaint has three layers: First, ease into the complaint so the person listening doesn't get defensive. Second, present the complaint itself in a nonhostile way. And finally, tell the person that any action they take to help you will be appreciated.