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10 Behaviors of Genuine People

10 Behaviors of Genuine People
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Whether you’re building a business, a network, or friendships, you always want to look for people who are genuine. After all, nobody wants to work or hang out with a phony. On the flipside, that goes for you, as well. Bet you never considered that. 

In case you're wondering, genuine means actual, real, sincere, honest. Genuine people are more or less the same on the inside as their behavior is on the outside. Unfortunately, it's a tough quality to discern. The problem is that all human interactions are relative. They’re all a function of how we perceive each other through our own subjective lenses. 

Being genuine is also a rare quality. In a world full of phony fads, media hype, virtual personas, positive thinkers, and personal brands – where everyone wants what they don’t have, nobody’s content to be who they are, and, more importantly, nobody’s willing to admit to any of that – it’s becoming more and more rare all the time.  

To help you identify this rare breed -- in yourself, as well -- this is how genuine people behave. 

Related: The Truth About 'Fake It 'Til You Make It'


 

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They don’t seek attention

They don’t seek attention

They don’t need constant reinforcement of their own ego. Where attention seekers have a hole that constantly needs to be filled, genuine people are already filled with self-confidence and self-awareness.

Related: Want to Be Successful? Quit Wasting Your Brain.

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They’re not concerned with being liked

They’re not concerned with being liked
The need to be liked is born of insecurity and narcissism. It creates a need to manipulate your own and other’s emotions. Confident and authentic people are simply themselves. If you like them, fine. If not, that’s fine, too.
10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They can tell when others are full of it

They can tell when others are full of it

Perhaps naïve folks can be easily fooled, but genuine people are not naïve. They’re grounded in reality and that gives them a baseline from which they can tell when things don’t add up. There’s a big difference. 

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They don’t need a lot of stuff

They don’t need a lot of stuff
When you’re comfortable with whom you are, you don’t need a lot of external stuff to be happy. You know where to find happiness – inside yourself, your loved ones, and your work. You find happiness in the simple things.
10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They are comfortable in their own skin

They are comfortable in their own skin
In his late 70s, actor Leonard Nimoy said he was closer than ever to being as comfortable with himself as Spock appeared to be. Most of us struggle with that. As Henry David Thoreau observed, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They do what they say and say what they mean

They do what they say and say what they mean

They don’t tend to overreach or exaggerate. They meet their commitments. And they don’t parse their words or sugarcoat the truth. If you need to hear it, they’ll tell you … even if it’s tough for them to say and for you to hear.

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They’re not thin-skinned

They’re not thin-skinned
They don’t take themselves too seriously so they don’t take offense when none is intended.
10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They’re not overly modest or boastful

They’re not overly modest or boastful

Since they’re confident of their strengths, they don’t need to brag about them. Likewise, they don’t exhibit false modesty. Humility is a positive trait but it’s even better to just be straightforward.

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They’re consistent

They’re consistent

You might describe genuine people as being weighty, solid, or substantial. Since they know themselves well and are in touch with their genuine emotions, they’re more or less predictable ... in a good way.  

10 Behaviors of Genuine People

They practice what they preach.

They practice what they preach.

They’re not likely to advise people to do something they wouldn’t do themselves. After all, genuine people know they’re no better than anyone else so it’s not in their nature to be self-righteous.  

All those seemingly different behaviors have the same thing at their core: self-awareness that’s consistent with reality. Genuine people see themselves as others would if they were objective observers. There’s not a lot of processing, manipulating, or controlling going on between what’s in their head and what people see and hear.

Once you get to know them, genuine people turn out to be more or less consistent with the way they initially hold themselves out to be. What you see is what you get. It's sad that, in today's world, such a positive quality is at risk of becoming endangered. Not only is it harder to find in others, it's becoming harder to be genuine ourselves. 

Related: Can We Quit With the Stereotypes Already?

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  • 10 Behaviors of Genuine People
  • 1. They don’t seek attention
  • 2. They’re not concerned with being liked
  • 3. They can tell when others are full of it
  • 4. They don’t need a lot of stuff
  • 5. They are comfortable in their own skin
  • 6. They do what they say and say what they mean
  • 7. They’re not thin-skinned
  • 8. They’re not overly modest or boastful
  • 9. They’re consistent
  • 10. They practice what they preach.
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