Don't Read This! (It's Only the Most Valuable Psychology Hack You Can Learn.)
“Don’t touch: wet paint.”
How many times have you seen that and wanted to touch the wet paint? How many times have you seen that sign, ignored it, and done the thing you’ve been explicitly told not to do?
If you’re anything like me, I’m guessing a lot! (But maybe I'm just a rebel like that.)
Don’t think of a blue tree.
Did you think of the blue tree? You thought of the tree, didn’t you! Even though I specifically told you not to think of a blue tree…that’s what you did.
Maybe this seems funny. (That’s because it is.)
But it also touches on deeply rooted psychological forces that influence our everyday experience and our relationship with ourselves. For example…
How many times have you said to yourself...“Don’t mess this up,” or “Don’t be an idiot,” or “I don’t want to fail”?
Psychologically, what do you think happens when you say these things?
Your mind latches onto messing up, being an idiot, being a failure.
The unconscious mind can’t handle the word “don’t.” It concept doesn’t compute. The math doesn’t make sense.
When you say “I don’t want to fail,” you’re giving your brain nearly infinite ideas to ponder over.
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...Infinity minus one, to be precise. (The one being “don’t fail.”)
Not very good odds.
Because your brain can’t possibly comprehend all of these possibilities, it focuses on the one thing you have given it: failing.
You end up focusing on the one thing you didn’t want to focus on.
What would happen if you changed “I don’t want to fail” to “I want to succeed”?
It would be like changing “don’t think of a blue tree” to “think of a blue tree.”
When you don’t want to think of a blue true, you end up thinking about a blue tree because “infinity minus one” possibilities is too many to handle. You’re setting yourself up for failure. You’re directly undermining your intention. Yikes.
On the other hand, when you want to think of a blue true, it’s easy to call it to mind. You choose to think of something you want. You choose to be specific over being abstract.
If you live your life saying “I don’t want” you will be thinking a lot about all the things you don’t want, which is exactly what you’ll end up with.
If you live your life saying “I want”, you will be thinking about all the specific things you do want, and that’s exactly what you’ll end up with.
But don’t believe me.
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