Make Someone Else's Day, and 3 Other Ways to De-Stress
Remember the famous Clint Eastwood line? Why not turn it around?
A survey from the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health found that close to half of all working adults say that their job negatively affects their life. And that certainly resonates: It's easier now more than ever to get stressed out and adopt unhealthy habits into our everyday lives.
What's more, the biggest problem about this epidemic is not the actual stress in itself, but our inability to do anything about it. Instead of thriving on all cylinders and being a top producer in our chosen lines of work, most of us settle for a state of survival.
Of course it's important to work extremely hard, put in the long hours and do everything in your power to make sure you are living up to your full potential each and every day. However, that doesn't mean you neglect your emotional, mental and physical health in the process.
Here are four things that will help you eliminate stress and reclaim your happiness.
1. Make someone else's day.
Remember the famous Clint Eastwood line from Dirty Harry? Why not turn it around? Because one of the easiest ways to eliminate stress and put a smile on your face is to find a way to make someone else's day. When stress beats us down, it's usually because we put too much focus on ourselves.
We may be way too hard on ourselves, setting unrealistic expectations at work, and feeling consumed only with what we currently have going on in our lives. But when we make it a priority to be of service to someone and "make someone else's day," we just might learn one of the most fulfilling ways for minimizing stress and reclaiming our happiness.
2. Go on a digital detox.
One of the best decisions that I ever made was to go on a digital detox for one full week. I stayed off social media, never once opened my email and even made sure that my phone was in a completely different room locked away for the whole week.
This was a very powerful action that provided me with just the right amount of solitude and soul searching required to get back on track and come back even stronger. In the technology-driven world that we currently live in, it's incredibly easy to fall into the trap of comparing our success (or lack thereof) to someone else's achievements. It's easy to let social media run run our lives. It's easy to forget about what matters most in life.
I am not suggesting that anyone go on a technology detox for a full week like I did. But I am encouraging that people at least try it out for maybe a weekend or just one day. I am positive that you will enjoy the sense of relief and calmness that will result.
3. Let gratitude be the driving force in your life.
Every single time that I have been stressed out and on the verge of burnout, my absence of gratitude has always been the main reason why. It's virtually impossible to be stressed out and feel terrible about yourself when you are in a constant state of gratitude.
And in case you're wondering what that means, there are plenty of ways to incorporate gratitude into your daily life. I write in a "gratitude journal" each and every morning. The first thing I do when I wake up is write down three to five things that I am grateful for that day. Instead of worrying about what I have to do over the day ahead or taking a look at the hectic calendar waiting for me, I turn to gratitude first.
Another way that I bring gratitude into my life is by going on a daily gratitude walk. I learned this daily practice from my friend and bestselling author Jon Gordon. Before I listen to music or a podcast, I'll go on a scenic walk early in the morning and say out loud everything that I am grateful for. This energizes me and is a profound way to start the day. Stress has no chance of surviving when you are in a constant state of gratitude. Don't believe me? Check out this Newsweek article which reports on five scientifically proven benefits of gratitude.
4. Get lost in a great book.
One of my favorite things in the world is to read and get lost in a great book. There is something magical about picking up a great book and not letting your worries, fears and stresses win the battle of your mind. Great books have the potential to change lives.
Even though I read a new book every week, I have a stack of ten or so more familiar books that I always turn to when the going gets tough and I feel the hustle and bustle of life starting to really get to me. All it takes is for me to pick up one of these great books and start re-reading it for 15 minutes.
Reading a great book helps me to see the world in a different light and forget about all of the problems going on in the world. I might do the same for you: Getting lost in great books has totally changed my life; and I know it can do the same for you as well.
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Stress doesn't have to get the best of you and steal your happiness. I hope these four ideas help you just as much as they have benefited my life over the years.
A former NFL linebacker for the Chicago Bears, Matt Mayberry is currently a keynote speaker, peak-performance strategist and writer. As the CEO of Matt Mayberry Enterprises, a training and consulting company, he specializes in maximizing the performance of individuals and organizations all over the world. He published his first book, Winning Plays, in 2016. You can contact him and learn more at mattmayberryonline.com.